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Postby Ed Sysop » Sun Oct 15, 2000 4:15 am

Lythande
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So, are we supposed to tell about our ex's here? I'm game. Heh

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Re: Ex's

Um...

I dunno myself...

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Re: Ex's

Don't get me started!

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I sense hostility to the idea...

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"I sense hostility to the idea... "

There isn't a hostile bone in my body. In my case people either laugh at my
love life or cry. Me? I can't make heads or tails of it.


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Same here, Fez...I think I'm laughing AND crying over my love life!


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So, this means no? Hehehe

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I'm kinda militant... i wanna make my ex's suffer, and if the opportunity arises,
I'll get my revenge...

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I think you can talk about your ex's here and that's what you were trying to
start up was a conversation or topic about talking about your experiences with
ex's. I say go for it!

Erica *Kashmir*
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OK - Do I do my husbands in order? Or worst to best? Or maybe by age? Is
there any rule to this? And what about the live-ins?

Actually, its just a lot more fun to do none of the above and just sleep around,
but I'll deny it if you say I said so.

The truth of the matter is that age is a great healer and as you get older you
get hurt less and enjoy relationships a heck of a lot more. Of course, you've
also learned some judgement in the interim (hopefully!) So no matter how bad
it seems, there's always something good waiting for you out there.

In case you're wondering - husbands 3, live-ins 3, engagements (excluding
marriages) 13, grandchildren 1.

Had some good times, had some bad times, but at least I've had them!
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"In case you're wondering - husbands 3, live-ins 3, engagements (excluding marriages) 13,
grandchildren 1.

Had some good times, had some bad times, but at least I've had them! "

Very well put. I like your perspective on relationships. There are good times
and bad times, and you seem to know how to take life as it comes along and
accept whatever life has in store for you.

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Yes, if you stay alive... and none of your ex's get you...
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Ex's are funny...

Gee... My future ex husband told me on our wedding night, right after
consumating the marraige that i had the most beautiful green eyes...

lovely sentiment...

Except that my eyes are brown...

and his are green...

<sigh>

Andi
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Ex's

I don't want to hurt my ex. In fact, I wish he'd find himself a nice new
woman...so he'd leave me the HELL alone! What the Hell are you supposed to
do with an ex that won't get the hint that it is over and no matter what
he/she says/does you will NOT ever sleep with him/her again. How do you get
them to understand that when they say, "Oh come on baby I'm the best you
ever had," that's it not cute or endearing and it does NOT make you want to
fornicate? Grrr...I have to see this person on a regular basis cuz of the whole
kid thing, but damn it's been 4 years and he still comes around trying to get in
my pants! I can't stand it.

Awww my venting is finished and I feel much better. Now where do I go to
bitch about my new boyfriend? LOL

If you get them by the balls, their hearts and minds will follow.
Sex appeal is 50% what you've got and 50% what people think you've got.
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Getting a hint

I understand that one all too well, Jynxie! Some guys just don't realize that its
over. You give them the definiton of the new phase of the relationship <"The
judge says we aren't married any more. I divorced you for a reason, and the
only reason that i speak to you now is because of the child we had together.
And no, you AREN'T the best i've ever had"> and they STILL persist.

Sometimes you have to hurt to heal.

I got perfect 'revenge' on my ex hubby. In two different ways.

I'm happier without him than i ever was with him. That alone irks him no end.
Dosn't matter if i've a boyfriend or not, i'm happier without him than i was with
him and it drives him nuts.

Then i introduced him to his new wife. She was on the same bbs i was at the
time and she asked me if i knew him. I gave her some info on him and she
chased him till he caught her.

Failing the above options... Find a guy that you can hang all over when you
have to see him in person? Or just plain tell him that he's really NOT the best
thing you've ever had in bed... or out of it for that matter....

Andi
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Andi I did both of those things. I have been with my now boyfriend for over a
year. And my ex has a new girlfriend and they have a son together and he still
keeps trying. Damn it makes me insane.
And ya, I am so much happier without him. He hates that. I went back to
college and am finishing up my degrees. Got me a really great job that I love
and that pays well. And I can now afford all those "little things" that we
couldn't when we were together. And he hates the fact that I have moved on
relationshipwise.
I felt so bad yesterday, he(the ex) came over and was starting his 'you know
you want me' shit again. Now my ex is a well-endowed man, but my now
boyfriend is...ummm...well bigger. And my ex said yesterday, keep in mind I
am quoting, "I'm the biggest man there is and you know you want it." I replied
with, "Well I thought you were, but I guess I just didn't have much basis for
comparison, because my Boy makes you look like a 10-yr-old boy." He shut up
and stormed off. I felt bad after I said it, cuz it bruised his ego, but there
comes a point when I just can't be "nice" anymore. Was that bad??? LOL

If you get them by the balls, their hearts and minds will follow.
Sex appeal is 50% what you've got and 50% what people think you've got.
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Boys will be Men?

Jynxie,
I don't think it was overly mean under the circumstances. If you'd said that in
the middle of the divorce proceedings... ummm... yeah.. i'd say so. After 4
years tho and him having a gal and a child with her at that, i think it was a
much needed thing to say.

And i don't care how 'well endowed' a guy is. If he dosn't know what to do
with his body <or mine> its rather like a picture of a box of Godiva Chocolates.
Nice to look at, lovely to drool over, but its not going to satisfy the
cravings....

Andi
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Re: Boys will be Men?

One more point... if you don't look at Godiva Chocolates, you won't drool...
!
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Re: the Ex *or* big dick

Hey Jynxie, your ex sounds like a real piece of work. He's trying to entice you
back to him with the size of his thing?!?!?! That's what he feels he has to offer
you? Yuck. Glad you moved on, mr. race car driver sounds like a lot nicer guy.

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Re: the Ex *or* big dick

He is a lot nicer guy Ed. And ya Andi I agree with what you said completely. I
think my ex just forgets that there are reasons why he is an ex. Grrrr. Damn
boys anyway. I am so glad some of them grow and turn into men.

If you get them by the balls, their hearts and minds will follow.
Sex appeal is 50% what you've got and 50% what people think you've got.
Jynxie
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Ex Vs. Chocolate

I know some boys turn into men, but it happens so late in life for most of
them...

Pass the chocolates, please...

Andi
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Postby Paige42986 » Wed Nov 08, 2000 11:24 pm

My ex husband isn't in the picture in either
me or my son's life and I am so glad for that
because my son doesn't have to live in fear of his biological dad's abuse. Michael is 14
and he has anger at his biological dad abandoning him so much that I am afraid he
would hurt him. I have so many swear words to
use for him but I won't because I don't want
to get in trouble here for using them. Let us
just say he isn't a nice person and I hope he
leaves us all alone.


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Postby possumsgirl » Thu Nov 09, 2000 12:05 pm

Exes usually weren't a problem for me...until...I got divorced...lol...I'm in the first SERIOUS relationship since my husband (took me 4 years...)

I didn't think my ex would affect any relationship I was in...BOY was I wrong...

Even if it's not directly, the effect is still there - when I'm angry, hurt, frustrated...Possum sees it...and he feels for me...but there's nothing he can do...Possum sees what affects the ex has on my son...and they're rarely positive...and for someone who's potentially going to be living with us, that's a lot of stuff to swallow...yeah, we're a great package, house in the 'burbs, child, me, cool dog...but the ex puts a cloud over that...makes it tough for someone to sign on for life...knowing that the ex will have to be dealt with for YEARS to come...

Worst of all...I look at the ex...and wonder...WHAT THE *HELL* WAS I THINKING???? I look at what I've got now...and feel so blessed...sigh...if I could only straighten out the ex...lol...BUT IT AIN'T MY JOB ANYMORE!!!!!!!

So I say to the Dalai Llama...How about a little something, you know, for the effort,
you know?" And he says, "...On your death bed, you will receive total consciousness."
So I got that going for me, which is nice. -
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Postby Fez » Sat Nov 11, 2000 12:38 pm

The thing about an "Ex" is that whenever people are still with the "Ex", we see the signs, but somehow we ignore them.

It's better to have an "Ex" that we can complain about, than to still have them and still be blinded by their problems.

Bravo Paige and PG for adding the prefix "Ex" to these guys! You both deserve so much better than that!

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Postby Paige42986 » Wed Nov 15, 2000 3:24 am

Yeah, I do deserve better then my ex but I can't find him yet. My ideal man would be like Fez. But in Shelby here all you get are
the red-necks who like to drink alot. I am
super picky about who I want in my life as
well as Michael's. I think more about him then I do myself. I know my pickiness limits
me but still. I vowed to myself that my 2nd
marriage would be my last and I am keeping
that. My ex is worthless and he has proved it
to everyone he comes into contact with. I deserve to have someone in my life who loves
and cerishes Michael and I and doesn't abuse
us.

<hr>There is nothing better
then a room full of good
friends and alot of love
going on.
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Postby possumsgirl » Wed Nov 15, 2000 12:28 pm

Paige, you couldn't be more right!

Take your time, eventually you will find the right one...it's better to wait and insist on your standards than to regret it later...

Trust me...I waited 5 years...and now I've got the man I've always dreamed of...I swear God put him together just for me!

[:luv] Poss is great!


<hr>So I say to the Dalai Llama...How about a little something, you know, for the effort,
you know?" And he says, "...On your death bed, you will receive total consciousness."
So I got that going for me, which is nice. -
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Postby Paige42986 » Wed Nov 15, 2000 11:22 pm

I have to be picky because I don't want someone to come into Michael's life and then they take off. Michael has seen so much abandonment in his life that I don't want to
put him through it. I am 34 years old and it
feels like I will never have the chance to marry again. I know God will bless me with
someone who is a king but I wonder when that
will be. I am tired of being alone but I don't want to make a mistake that will hurt
Michael. I would die alone rather then hurt him like that.

<hr>There is nothing better
then a room full of good
friends and alot of love
going on.
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Postby possumsgirl » Thu Nov 16, 2000 1:35 pm

Just have faith - keep your priorities in order, as you have, and all will fall into place!

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Postby Paige42986 » Thu Nov 16, 2000 11:19 pm

I know I am doing what is best for Michael by
not getting invovled with the wrong person.I am watching all the friends I grew up with marry and have childern. I want that chance
at happiness but I will not do it at the expense of my son. Mom used to tell me all the time that God will provide a perfect mate
in his own time and to be patient because it
will come to me. It is really hard being patient because I am alone and very lonely and I want some one in my life who will be
there and not abuse us. I am hoping the right
guy comes along sooner or later because I
don't want to be lonely any more

<hr>Time won't heal wounds people do.
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Postby Fez » Sat Nov 18, 2000 6:45 am

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Yeah, I do deserve better then my ex but I can't find him yet. My ideal man would be like Fez. But in Shelby here all you get are
the red-necks who like to drink alot. ... I deserve to have someone in my life who loves and cerishes Michael and I and doesn't abuse
us.
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Thanks for the vote of confidence. :)

The fact is there are still a lot of good people out there, we just need to train ourselves to see them. I've decided to put this entire situation in God's hands. I'm not going to actively seek a mate, but I'm listening to that inner voice that guides me and protects me. Lately that voice has been telling me to strengthen my faith and seek fellowship. In my case I feel that following that path will lead me to my mate.

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Postby Paige42986 » Sat Nov 18, 2000 11:40 pm

That is what every one keeps on telling me.
I choose not to search either no matter how
lonely I get because when I do it doesn't work for me. I know that God has put that
perfect mate for me out there and I know he will come to be and I know that I am impatient with that. I know I will be better
off if I wait. The one thing I always keep
in mind is how will this man affect Michael?
I know there is someone out there who will
love Michael and not leave him. He has to be
pretty damn special for me to date him in the
first place.

<hr>Time won't heal wounds people do.
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Postby Ed Sysop » Thu Dec 07, 2000 12:03 am

<BLOCKQUOTE id=quote><font size=1 face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica" id=quote>quote:<hr height=1 noshade id=quote>I didn't think my ex would affect any relationship I was in...BOY was I wrong...
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This isn't unusual at all, PG. The things you've gone through in your past are what make up your being. Even the bad things help shape who you are, so don't regret the things you've learned, because even though there are sometimes bad memories, they make you who you are right now.

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Postby Ed Sysop » Thu Dec 07, 2000 12:08 am

<BLOCKQUOTE id=quote><font size=1 face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica" id=quote>quote:<hr height=1 noshade id=quote>I know I am doing what is best for Michael by
not getting invovled
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Paige,

Although it's admirable that you want the best for Michael, I also have this belief that you're not supposed to completely give up your own life for your kids.

If nothing else, as you isolate yourself from sharing yourself, you also lose a little something inside, which will also affect him.

Bad, even horrible experiences from the past shouldn't prevent you from living your life to the fullest. Keep yourself open, there are TWO people who need to be happy, don't sacrifice your entire existence.

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Postby possumsgirl » Thu Dec 07, 2000 12:59 pm

Learning experience, YES it was...lol...and I have brought those lessons with me...

I learned what I don't want in a mate
I learned what I do want in a mate
I learned what I can tolerate in a mate
(just cap the DAMN toothpaste!!!)
I learned what I have to offer a mate
(all this AND a bag of chips)
I learned I was strong
(I can carry all the groceries in one hand)
I learned I was self-sufficient
(haven't won the lottery YET, though)
I learned I will ALWAYS be able to take care of my son
(He's why I do anything, anyways!)
I learned I was smart
(3-1=2 mouths to feed at 25% the cost!!)
I learned I was beautiful
(not just in looks)
and...most of all...

I learned what I am better than, and that I'll never have to settle again. I am a gift that I will only give when I receive the same.

I have a wonderful poem titled, "With Every Goodbye You Learn."

I guess that sums it all up...I'll take it down (it's framed on my wall) when I'm not snifflin', sneezin' and hakkin' and post it here...It's really perfect for this - my mom gave it to me when I got my 1st apartment after leaving my ex.


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